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How to Show Up for Yourself

March 11, 2023•3 min read


"COURAGE STARTS WITH SHOWING UP AND LETTING OURSELVES BE SEEN."

Brene Brown

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I was curious about mediocrity vs vulnerablity.

Creative outlets require discipline. And good creative work requires presence of mind, vulnerablity and uniqueness.

When I was much younger, I knew how to numb my emotions, not explore and develop them.

As the decades went on, drinking wine daily wasn't inspiring me to show up to my desires or my higher truths.

In fact, it numbed my emotion and kept me from being truly present in my life.

Creatively because I had talent I created, but I see it was not its truest work. I don't think the vulnerability was exposed. I had learned to protect it and push it down.

Much later, I had to imagine and remember that I had creativity to explore and cultivate, and to use my mental energy with things I really wanted to do.

To do that required me to really show up for myself. It is a process of peeling back what no longer serves us, and discovering what is needed to expand in purpose.

So how do you show up for yourself?

You can prioritize self care and make time for activities that nourish your body, mind and spirit. You surround yourself with positive people who support and encourage you.

If we are not able to set boundaries and say no when necessary, we risk burning out or becoming resentful and unfulfilled.

By showing up for ourselves, we cultivate confidence & resilience, which helps to navigate challenges and setbacks with grace and ease. We listen to our inner voice, trusting our intuition, and speaking up for ourself when needed.

While it is important to be there for the people we care about, it is equally important to show up for ourselves.

Women face various barriers in showing up for themselves. Some of these are societal expectations, cultural norms and personal beliefs.

Women have often been taught to prioritize others before themselves, making it difficult for them to prioritize their own needs and desires.

So take a moment to check in with yourself.

Are you showing up for yourself?

If you aren't, it's never too late to start.

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Here are a few ways to begin:

  1. Make small changes,

  2. Carve out time just for you.

  3. Hobbies

  4. Dance

  5. Meditation

  6. Practice self compassion and affirmations

  7. Take time to sit in quiet, even if for 5 mins., and just be, not having to do anything but imagine and dream.

  8. Eat healthy Whole Foods and drink clean non toxic or sugary liquid as much as possible.

Remember the most important relationship you have is with YOURSELF, so show up for yourself like you would a dear or special friend.

Showing up for yourself can give you a sense of accomplishment and pride as it's a positive step towards taking care of your own needs and priorities.

It can boost your esteem knowing that you're capable of supporting yourself and achieving your goals, leading to a greater sense of happiness, well-being and personal growth.

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Thank you for Reading!

With Love and Wonder

Rebecca

Rebecca Guevara Wingler

Rebecca Guevara Wingler

I create spaces where women can pause, explore, create, reflect, and reconnect with the parts of themselves that may have been quiet for a very long time. Through intuitive watercolor, reflective practices, soulful conversation, coaching, and immersive retreats, I invite women into a different kind of exploration.

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