Colorful expressive nativity painting by Rebecca Guevara Wingler showing Mary holding baby Jesus and Joseph with golden halos in a red wooden stable, with a lamb, a rooster and a bright star in a dotted blue night sky

LOVING IN THIS SEASON OF GIVING

December 21, 2022•2 min read


LOVE IS THE REASON FOR THE SEASON

Colorful expressive nativity painting by Rebecca Guevara Wingler showing Mary holding baby Jesus and Joseph with golden halos in a red wooden stable, with a lamb, a rooster and a bright star in a dotted blue night sky

Christmas tradition, the giving of ourselves because of the gift that has been given to us.

Whether you are religious or not, practice spirituality or not, it seems to me that at this time of year people feel free to be more gracious, joyous and yes, giving.

It isn't about how much is given, how many dollars were spent, or hours volunteered, we seem to get so much satisfaction when we are able to practice the act of giving, It is beautiful. It is an act of love.

Research shows that giving can stimulate the brain's reward center and can boost our physical and mental health.

The chemical response that takes place makes us feel good, helping to create positive feelings.

WHAT ABOUT LOVING AND GIVING TO OURSELVES?

Sometimes we forgot that all these sentiments and actions of giving are also beneficial when directed toward our own well being. There is so much value in being mindful about loving, appreciating and giving to ourselves.

We can practice in simple things like taking time to............

Handwritten black text reading “Love yourself, create your future!” with a pink heart, over a purple watercolor background

Process fears, not rejecting them but question them and evaluate them to help gain clarity. It is natural to feel afraid and have fears sometimes, but instead of numbing them or rejecting them try and understand them. Work with someone if you need to, to help guide you through.

  • Love your body. So many distractions in this world try to keep you from this truth: Our value doesn't lie in how our body looks. Learn how to think about your body without toxic negativity. One way is to be grateful to it, for bringing you along this far. Numbing with things like passive screen time or alcohol distracts from yourself and your needs. You are beautiful and unique.

  • Allow yourself to make mistakes. Cut yourself some slack. Making mistakes is how you learn and grow. We have a past, it doesn't define the future. You are constantly changing and growing from who you once were into who you are today and will be one day. Respond to your mistakes and failures with compassion.

  • Don't compare yourself to others First there is only one you! Focus on yourself and your journey. You will feel better when you allow for this energy shift, it is freeing. Express who you really are instead of who you "should" be. Learn to trust your instincts about which people are right for you to be with, and what career to pursue. In practice, you will know yourself best and how to make the most of what you have to offer the world.


Woman in a knit sweater and wool socks sitting on a fluffy blanket by a window, holding a cup and an open book while snow falls outside

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."

Buddha

Have a joyous holiday and peaceful New Year.

Merry Christmas!

Sepia photo of a smiling woman with shoulder-length wavy hair, round glasses, a wool cap and a scarf, seated at a busy restaurant and looking off to the side

Thanks for reading.

With love, wonder and curiosity,

Rebecca

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Rebecca Guevara Wingler

Rebecca Guevara Wingler

I create spaces where women can pause, explore, create, reflect, and reconnect with the parts of themselves that may have been quiet for a very long time. Through intuitive watercolor, reflective practices, soulful conversation, coaching, and immersive retreats, I invite women into a different kind of exploration.

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